Thank you for posting this. This sums up so much that those of us who were close to the situation saw and attempted to share with Mike.
I was talked into being at their house on the day that she told Mike they were losing it and also that she wanted a divorce. Mike came to our house for the night and we talked into the late hours. The next day he went to work and then back home like nothing had happened. Shortly thereafter a group of us helped them move and while we were loading their items a man arrived and served them with another notice of delinquency on something else. When we arrived at the rental house they were moving to Romy appeared and announced that she had just purchased all new furniture for the rental. Mike asked why, and she said because he works hard and deserves it. He replied with the fact that they have their furniture from the house they owned and didn’t need new furniture. He then looked at us, shrugged his shoulders and just said “whatever.”
A while later they were evicted from the rental house and Mike informed me that Romy had taken his phone and blocked the number of the landlord, so he was unaware that Romy hadn’t been paying their rent. Now they were again having to move, this time in with her mother at her condo.
There were times when he went to a councilor and she wouldn’t let him go alone, she went with him. I’m sure she feared what would be discussed and she wouldn’t be able to defend herself with her lies!
There are too many of these incidents to count, and I shared so many conversations with him over what he wanted to do, or needed to do to help stop this trend. Every time he would say he needed to figure it out but didn’t know how, or what to do. He was so afraid to leave her due to the retaliation she would take, and I think we are now seeing that no matter what his life was going to be hell as long as she was anywhere in or around it.
She cost him multiple homes, multiple jobs, and sadly many friends who were pushed away over time.
My heart hurts every day that he went to such a dark place and had this on his shoulders to deal with it.
None of us knew the true depths of her sickness, and the devastation that she is capable of. As I reflect on it now, I feel so much worse for Mike because she was and is completely psychotic and is the definition of a sociopath! There is no way he was equipped to try and change or control her.
Once her dad passed away and the silver spoon was removed for the most part, she just went out of control and didn’t care who or what tried to get in her path!
I believe in karma, and boy does she have a heaping serving coming her way
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This post is from a comment on Lane County Mugshots Uncensored - where there is a post about Romy's convictions and for the community to be careful. That FB group can be found here.